Sometimes, we end up doing things out of habit, but that does not mean they are necessary to our lives. Out duty is to question our habits and, in particular, to question how they make us feel.
You may think that I will give you a revolutionary secret today, but no. Why? Because insofar as you already know it deep inside your heart, it is not a secret. Maybe more a revelation, or a reminder that you really need to acknowledge what you already know.
What am I talking about? I am referring to the only way you can know if something you do on a regular basis is good for you, or if it is not. We engage in dozens of activities every day, and they are not all meant to make us feel great. How do we know if something is good for us? We question our feelings, but not at any given point. We question our feelings when the time is right, so let me show you when it is right.
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Questioning how we feel AFTER the activity.
The Four Types of Activities.
I would personally divide activities into four categories. Are you ready?
♡ Activities that do not feel good WHEN you do them, but feel good AFTER you did them (e.g. sport).
♡ Activities that do not feel good WHEN you do them, & do not feel good AFTER you did them either (e.g. eating vanilla ice-cream if you both hate vanilla & try to lose weight).
♡ Activities that feel good WHEN you do them, but feel wrong AFTER you did them (e.g. scrolling on Instagram for 2 hours when you have other far more important things written n your to-do list).
♡ Activities that feel good WHEN you do them, and AFTER you did them (e.g. reading a really interesting book, for those of us who love reading)
Analysis Of The Four Types Of Activities.
The ones that are good for you.
Among these four types of activities, I think only two are good for you: the first one and the last one. Why? Simply because they both feel good AFTER you did them. You would obviously prefer the last one because it feels good both during and after the activity, but the first one, even though it is painful while you are being engaged in it, is still really good for you.
The ones that are bad, but that are easy to avoid.
The second activity (the ones that feel wrong both when we are engaged in it and after we finished it) is naturally avoided because it always feels wrong and we take no pleasure out of it.
The one type that requires us to be (extremely) careful.
However, there is one type of activity we need to be very careful with: the third one. Why? Because it is something that feels really good while you are doing it, but makes you feel really bad after you did it. Thus it can be really tempting to engage in it, but we should not or we will probably feel awful in the long run.
I sincerely hope that today’s post helped you see how you can evaluate whether or not an activity is good for you. In order to know, you should not focus on the way you feel while you are engaged in that activity but on the way you feel after that activity. That is the easiest way to know.
Sometimes, the worse decisions as easy to make, and the best ones really tough. Make sure you ask yourself the right questions, and engage mostly in activities that are going to bring value to your life in the long run. I wish you the best of all days. ♡
The English-speaking Frenchie 
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